Could Tom Hardy Get Any Better?

Could Tom Hardy Get Any Better?

Perhaps nothing is a more inspiring story than someone able to turn their life around, rise from the ashes, take a bad situation and make something good happen. It’s a great narrative not just because it’s inspirational and provides you with a sense of hope, although those are wonderful effects, but also because these stories are humbling. They remind us, nothing is permanent and many things are not as they seem – whether life is going perfectly well or heartbreakingly terrible at the present moment, there is more that’s still unwritten. Any circumstance can turn around and take a different direction and there are a lot of things at any given moment we may not fully comprehend. Having said that, we do have an awful lot of power at our hands as well. Respecting that which we don’t know (yet) or understand, while finding the inner strength to take on life’s challenges is a very exciting path to find oneself traversing.

 

Which brings me to the subject matter I really want to discuss – attractive, fascinating men. Actually, one man in particular, Tom Hardy. In case you don’t know who he is, allow me to significantly improve your day with a brief introduction . Tom Hardy is a British actor who has appeared in movies and on television since 2001, and is arguably best known for his starring role in Mad Max Fury Road, but you may also know him from his roles in Bane or Inception. Here is an informative article (with photos) if you’d like to dive in further. Currently, he stars in a TV show called Taboo, which is a BBC series that is being aired in the US on the FX network. Taboo is a dark, gritty drama period, which he also co-created, where Tom Hardy plays the main character, James Delaney, whose father dies, leading him to come home to England after an extended period of time in Africa. It’s a morally ambivalent role in which the threat of brutality and malevolence seem imminent. These themes couldn’t lie further in opposition from his real-life personality. He is known as kind, warm and even gentle, extending a lot of empathy and compassion to creatures great and small.

 

 

Tom Hardy has spoken very openly about his struggles with addiction. He was a very heavy drug user in his 20’s, and found himself spiraling out of control just as his acting career was starting to take off. He’s been clean for almost 15 years but he believes having been in dark spots in his life has shaped his work. Now in 2017, he is a successful actor and long-time animal lover who is known to be incredibly close and loving with his dogs. After reading all this, you may understand why I am so obsessed, uh, I mean, IMPRESSED, with Tom Hardy. He represents the vulnerability and fragility in all of us, but has overcome great obstacles to achieve incredible things – all while relying on love and openness to stay on track.

 

 

Which brings us back to my earlier thoughts. The idea that we can turn around even the most difficult and hopeless-seeming situation and make that the basis for a better life. Like Tom, we first must admit to ourselves that it may not be a simple task. In my opinion, difficult and impossible are in direct opposition to each other. Acknowledging that something won’t be easy is also recognizing that real steps can be taken to achieve that goal. Tom isn’t just an example of someone taking on challenges and coming out victorious, he’s a reflection of the human condition that exists in each one of us. Each of us is a walking contradiction – beautiful but also tormented, grateful but also full of yearning, blessed but also troubled. And just like him, we are full of promise, full of potential. We make choices every day that changes the course of our lives, while also living in the magic of each moment, knowing that there are forces that we can’t control, that write our stories alongside of us and make each life unique and amazing.

 

Sexiness & the Lumbersexual Man

Sexiness & the Lumbersexual Man

Over the years I’ve learned something about myself—I prefer a good-looking man who’s a little scruffy rather than one who’s groomed to within an inch of existence. The media has tooled a new name for these rough-and-tumble guys: Lumbersexual. Look around you–in nearly every major North American or European city, you’ll find him. The rough-around-the-edges who looks like he’d much rather be hanging out at a cabin in the woods than sitting in a microbrewery bar. He looks like your dream lumberjack–sexy without even trying, casual, comfortable like your favourite flannel shirt. And ou know he cleans up well if needs be.

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The Heir Apparent

Apparently, the heir apparent of Lumbersexual Men in Jake Gyllenhaal. He has a penchant for flannel shirts, jeans and workboots. He also looks good in a beard. And the beard is quite important for the Lumbersexual man–it can’t be too messy. It shouldn’t look like you expect to find a family of hibernating animals stuck in it. And there shouldn’t be any day-old food caught in those whiskers. Whenever Jake sports his Lumbersexual look, he looks clean…like fresh mountain air, like a spring water trickling over rocks… If you were lucky enough to hug him, he’d smell like balsam…or something equally outdoorsy and manly. He would not smell like he hadn’t bathed in weeks.

Tom Hardy is also another contender for the Lumbersexual Crown Prince. When he sports his beard and his pea coat, he looks like he could wrestle a bear and still not be too late to meet you for drinks at the Zetland Arms. This is very important–the Lumbersexual Guy would never leave you stranded at the pub.

Lumbersexual Essentials

Source: redwingheritage.com

Source: redwingheritage.comLumbersexual Essentials

If he’s mastered his beard, then we can focus on  your Lumbersexual guy’s attire. A plaid flannel work shirt or a Nordic sweater is always a good start. Lumbersexuals don’t like being cold. They like their jackets fleece…or PrimaLoft or some other functional material that looks smart and is smart. The North Face, Lands End, Timberland…Eastern Mountain Sports? No need for haute couture when your Lumbersexual hunk probably has everything he needs in his closet.  For shoes, classic, comfortable yet still stylish is always a safe bet. A pair of Red Wing Classic Mocs should do the trick. Spotted on Lumbersexuals in Stockholm and Copenhagen, these sturdy, studly boots work with jeans, corduroys and wool trousers.

Screen Shot 2015-02-22 at 22.32.32A good backpack is also essential. Ryan Gosling, another Lumbersexual god, is never far from his favourite backpack. Don’t make the mistake of letting it look too new. It should look worn-in, scuffed, scruffy–just like your guy. What should he have in his backpack? Some Lumbersexuals tote around their MacBook Air or a dog-eared copy of their favourite novel. Swedish Lumbersexuals seem to always have computers with them. A few of the American Lumbersexuals I’ve met have a penchant for Moleskine notebooks and nice pens. Not bad. I like a thinking man. A man who’s a bookworm. A man who likes to write down his thoughts.  My ideal Lumbersexual would always have a bottle of Canadian maple syrup in his backpack. That brunch place he recommended may only serve pancake syrup with artificially flavoured maple syrup. You never known when you might need maple syrup. But of course the ideal Lumbersexual would never take you to a place that didn’t serve proper maple syrup.

Lucky Me

As I write this, I realise I am already married to a Lumbersexual. He doesn’t like wearing suits. His hair is cut short and always a bit messy (just like I like it). And nearly everything in his wardrobe comes from an outdoor lifestyle shop. He likes hiking in the Swedish fells and owns more fleece jackets than one needs in a lifetime. All of his shoes are made of Gore-Tex (with the exception of one pair of leather dress shoes I made him buy to wear to a friend’s wedding). The only thing missing is the beard. His beard grows in too patchy, so he settles for razor-stubble and it looks good on him.

I hope this Lumbersexual fad lasts for a while. As much as I like David Beckham or Cristiano Ronaldo, they’re both a tad bit too polished, too waxed.  Give me the rough-and-tumble guy any day. He’s not afraid to get dirty…and he’s sexy as all get-out.

So tell me…who’s your favourite lumbersexual?

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