The Non-Fashionista, Appreciating Fashion

The Non-Fashionista, Appreciating Fashion

I think I’ve covered this before. I am not a fashion guru. I don’t buy expensive clothes. I like to be comfortable when I go out – or to work – or hell, just sitting around the house. This typically means, jeans and a t-shirt. Sometimes a polo-ish top (or the like).  I own one pair of tennis shoes and one pair of flip flops. I’m a simple woman. *wink*

However, none of this means I cannot appreciate someone who’s dressed nice.



And so I give you . . . my top (we’ll go with FIVE) favorite best dressed hunks whom I love to watch on T.V. and / or movie screens.

First, of course, there’s Jensen. Because . . . JENSEN.


Helloooooo, Jensen.

Then we have, Gerard . . .


Barrrrre . . . Feeeeeeet!  COME ON.

And Stephen . . .


Do I seriously need to spell this one out?

And okay, Robert . . .


Because that pic of him has always killed me.

And last but far from least . . . the Fassy:


It’s a tough life, but someone’s gotta Google these men.

You’re welcome.

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Dress for Success I do not

Dress for Success I do not

To my mother’s dismay, I still dress like an 18 year old boy. Why? I like being comfortable.

I have an obsession with band tees and tennis shoes. My life does not afford fashion–between my figure and my finances, jeans and tees are my way of life.

I wasn’t always this way. Way back when, I was stylish and creative and bohemian with my fashion approach. I graduated from design school, worked fashion shows for Nordstrom and on music videos as a stylist. I loved it, truly I did, and to this day, I love clothing. The feel of it, the look of it, the ten million ways you can approach one dress. But, nowadays, I work a full-time job where I am hunking around in a warehouse part of the day, I am the caregiver for my mother who is ill, a mother to a filthy, pig-pen of a 19-year-old and fur-mama to a house full of cats and a big black dog.

Plus, I write sometimes. (lol)

So–since I have no time, no money, and no interest in trying to be pretty anymore (what’s the use!) I wear my daily uniform of jeans, tees, and tennies. And they make me happy. Do my friends shake their heads when I wear my politically incorrect tees in public? Nope! They know me better than that! But the best part about my uniform is how I feel like me. I’m me. It’s more than comfort–it’s part of my personality.

So lace ’em up and have fun with your sloppy!


To Costume Or Not To Costume? That Is The Question OR Halloween: It’s Not Just For Kids

To Costume Or Not To Costume? That Is The Question OR Halloween: It’s Not Just For Kids

So, my better half and I were invited to a Halloween party this year. A costume party. I have to admit, the idea of going somewhere as a matched pair that’s not our usual selves is a pretty fun idea. We could be Snow White and Price Charming, Superman and Wonder Woman, Hulk and She-Hulk (green body paint would be fun!). The possibilities are endless. (Really. Endless. Search “Halloween costumes for adults” on Google. I’ll wait…) 
But costume party aside, I have several friends who work in corporate offices and they are allowed to come into the office in costume on Halloween. This is cool. This also never happened during my brief stint in the corporate world, but I’m all for it. I have other friends who wear costumes when they take their kids trick-or-treating or hand out candy, and friends who dress up their pets for the day. (If I had a pet, I’d SO do this too).
If you feel silly dressing up, remember this: People have been doing it for centuries. An early reference to wearing costumes at Halloween comes from Scotland (My ancestors rock!) in 1585. There are many references to the custom during the 18th and 19th centuries in Scotland, Ireland, Mann and Wales. It has been suggested that the custom comes from the Celtic festivals of Samhain and Calan Gaeaf. Halloween costumes were traditionally based on frightening supernatural or folkloric beings, but by the 1930’s costumes based on characters in mass media such as film, literature, and radio were popular. You can literally be anything you want to be.
I don’t think you’re ever too old to take part. And I don’t think you should take yourself or life too seriously, so if you have the chance to be Ironman or a fairy or a football player or a minion, or heck, a deck of cards for the day, why not take it?
So, are you dressing up? If so, what as?
Now I’m off to find a costume for my inner She-Hulk 🙂


A Man Makeover

A Man Makeover

Full disclosure: I’m not a fashion-plate, more a jeans and T-shirt kind of guy. But I am addicted to Project Runway for some reason I cannot fathom and recently I’ve started thinking about updating my wardrobe to be a little more fashion forward.

I know very little about fashion in general, and even less about men’s fashion, so I thought I’d do a bit of research.


First stop, Gucci:

Ummm…I don’t think I could pull off any of those looks.

Let’s check out Burberry:

Okay, I could see myself in a couple of those pieces. Still, it’s a bit young/metrosexual for an old guy like me.

One last stop at Bottega Veneta:

These get a little closer to what I’m looking for I think. Still, I’ll probably just stop into Kohl’s and pick up a new pair of jeans and a fall flannel. I can always say I’m doing that lumbersexual thing.

Then again, maybe I’ll take my wife along and get her input. She seems to know better what will work for me.


So, ladies, do you help your guy stay fashion forward? Suggest styles and items for him? Let me know in the comments below.


Oh yeah, while searching I came across this, because every guy needs beachwear:

(You can thank me later.)


Best Face Forward

Best Face Forward

There are people who hate wearing makeup. There are people who love wearing makeup. One group is not better than the other. Wear it or don’t, but please respect (or at least, don’t mock) the other side. I’m in the pro-makeup camp. I love playing with colors and using my face as the canvas. (Eye makeup only. Lipstick isn’t my thing. I’m more of a Burt’s Bees balm type of girl). And, yes, I do this every day. Again, because I like it, and it makes me happy. How can sparkles and shimmer not make you happy?

In medieval times, having pale skin was equated with beauty and high class. Many women went to great lengths to achieve a pale complexion, including bleeding out with leeches or draining some of their blood by slashing a vein. (Um, seriously, that’s the most painful beauty method ever!!). It wasn’t until 1920 when Coco Chanel was on a cruise to the French Riviera and accidentally got sunburned that tans started to become popular.
And speaking of Coco:
Back in the Victorian Era, makeup was seen as something reserved for prostitutes, actresses, working-class women and women of “questionable morals”. To that I say:
Today, I thought I’d share some of my favorite makeup quotes from a few beauty and style icons.

Liz Taylor’s advice:



Marilyn Monroe’s thoughts:




Audrey Hepburn is my fave, so she gets two:



Whether you’re PRO or CON on the makeup-wearing, don’t forget:





No matter what:


Now, please excuse me. I’m feeling the urge to play with some new metallic shades 🙂


P.S. For my fellow eyeliner lovers:

Project Runway – My Guilty Pleasure

Project Runway – My Guilty Pleasure

I am not what you’d call a fashion conscious kind of guy. Okay, I did have a bit of a flirtation back in the mid 2000’s with Queer Eye for the Straight Guy that taught me a few things, and upped my wardrobe quality a bit, but that was pretty much it until I stumbled across Project Runway.

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It probably says something about me (though I’m not sure what) that at one time my two favorite television shows were Project Runway and Ice Road Truckers. (Ice Road Truckers is probably a whole other blog.)

I cannot tell you why I find Project Runway so riveting. I had no clue who Michael Kors was. Had never heard of Tim Gunn. Heidi Klum? Oh yeah, I knew about her. I am a guy after all.Heidi Klum


But at some point around season 3 I fell into watching this. It took a few more seasons to get my wife hooked on it. Now we salivate at the approach of each season, and set aside time each week to approve or dis young fashion designers fabric choices and sewing skills.

My fascination with this show may have something to do with my grandmother, a well known seamstress in our small town, who’s sewing machine occupied a prominent place in her dining room (which was never actually used for dining.) Her wedding gowns, mink stoles, and hat designs were legend and she was always working on something.

Now I haven’t touched a sewing machine in years, but I will admit (during our tight money times) to turning out an impressive collection of Barbie clothing for my daughter made from fabric scraps scrounged from my grandmother.

In any case, Project Runway season 14 starts August 6th. A glass of wine, some popcorn, and the remote await. Another season where the designers can “Make it work!”

Yeah, I’ll be there.


How Many Personalities Are In Your Closet?

How Many Personalities Are In Your Closet?

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only person with multiple fashion personalities scattered through their closet. I seem to go in spurts when it comes to clothing sprees.

A decent chunk of my clothes cover my day job, which is pretty much just standard issue business casual.

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That’s a more comfortable step down from what I started out wearing in my professional career. The minute I started working in a “real office,” I took it upon myself to charge my credit cards to the max and filled my closets with everything I could (barely) afford from Talbot’s.

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Alas, I only have a few of those suits now…enough to get me by for job interviews or other power meetings. In fact, the older I get, the more my rebellious side has broken free. Take for instance, the rocker attire I stocked up on last year.

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At first, my family pretty much thought I’d lost mind. It’s taken ‘em a while, but they’ve finally adapted, which is good, because I’ve decided my rocker wardrobe is sticking around for a while. T-shirts and jeans come with a lot less wrinkles and a much lower dry cleaning bill. Just sayin’….

This year, I seem to be favoring a close cousin to the rocker look. I’ll call it Flirty Bohemian.

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Not that I particularly rock the bohemian vibe all that well. I mean, the flirty lines are lovely, but my hips don’t exactly need that kind of focus. I tend to keep to more of the maxi trend, because, well…MAXI. Sure would be nice though if they’d make maxis for those of us on the shorter side…

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Now, there’s one final personality type lurking in my closet I’m sure most of you are familiar with and probably embrace yourself. We’ll call it Comfy Momma. Look familiar?

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Mmm hmmm…can I get a, “Hell, yeah!” for the yoga pants? That’s what I thought…

So? How many personalities are lurking in your closet? Care to share your favorites? Or those you wish you’d never wasted money on?

Gimme, Gimme, Gimme Shoe Porn

Gimme, Gimme, Gimme Shoe Porn



There, I said it. The higher, the sexier, the more impractical and I’m there salivating all over the display window. The real irony to this, is that I don’t have the lifestyle or opportunity to wear the sort of shoes that make my little girl’s heart sing. Most days you’ll find me hunkered down behind my computer wearing yoga pants and sneakers and/or flip flops.

This does not prevent me from lusting over Jimmy Choo, Christian Louboutin, Manolo Blahnik et al – those gods of beautiful shoes.

I think we need a little visual aid here. My fellow Shoe-Aholics will get this right away.

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I have an entire Pinterest board dedicated to my obsession.


The other little twist to my tale, is that at 5’8, I only really started strapping on the heels after I got married. My husband is a little clear of six foot, and gets a kick out of me in towering heels. TMI? Maybe, but there it is. For me, there is nothing that makes me feel more girly or sexier than a great pair of shoes.


How about you? Strictly a sneakers-gotta-be-comfortable girl or a just-call-me-Imelda-and-hand-me-the-next-pair type?


Xio’s deep, dark secret. Oooooo…

Xio’s deep, dark secret. Oooooo…


Get in my closet!

My name is Xio and…

I am obsessed with Alexander McQueen. No, not the man, his fashion house. (Though he was a pretty incredible person and left us far too soon.)

Each season, I scour the web for what’s new from AMQ and I am never, ever disappointed. There are some signature pieces that I have filed away as “if I ever win the lottery.” Not that I would ever wear any of AMQ’s gorgeous creations – I’m a t-shirt and jeans kinda girl and wasn’t gifted with a svelt physique – but some of them really are works of wearable art. Heck, I’d buy one just to hang on the wall.

Warning: what follows is a tiny taste of my photo collection. [Read more…]

Sexiness & the Lumbersexual Man

Sexiness & the Lumbersexual Man

Over the years I’ve learned something about myself—I prefer a good-looking man who’s a little scruffy rather than one who’s groomed to within an inch of existence. The media has tooled a new name for these rough-and-tumble guys: Lumbersexual. Look around you–in nearly every major North American or European city, you’ll find him. The rough-around-the-edges who looks like he’d much rather be hanging out at a cabin in the woods than sitting in a microbrewery bar. He looks like your dream lumberjack–sexy without even trying, casual, comfortable like your favourite flannel shirt. And ou know he cleans up well if needs be.

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Credit: Details Magazine

The Heir Apparent

Apparently, the heir apparent of Lumbersexual Men in Jake Gyllenhaal. He has a penchant for flannel shirts, jeans and workboots. He also looks good in a beard. And the beard is quite important for the Lumbersexual man–it can’t be too messy. It shouldn’t look like you expect to find a family of hibernating animals stuck in it. And there shouldn’t be any day-old food caught in those whiskers. Whenever Jake sports his Lumbersexual look, he looks clean…like fresh mountain air, like a spring water trickling over rocks… If you were lucky enough to hug him, he’d smell like balsam…or something equally outdoorsy and manly. He would not smell like he hadn’t bathed in weeks.

Tom Hardy is also another contender for the Lumbersexual Crown Prince. When he sports his beard and his pea coat, he looks like he could wrestle a bear and still not be too late to meet you for drinks at the Zetland Arms. This is very important–the Lumbersexual Guy would never leave you stranded at the pub.

Lumbersexual Essentials


Source: redwingheritage.comLumbersexual Essentials

If he’s mastered his beard, then we can focus on  your Lumbersexual guy’s attire. A plaid flannel work shirt or a Nordic sweater is always a good start. Lumbersexuals don’t like being cold. They like their jackets fleece…or PrimaLoft or some other functional material that looks smart and is smart. The North Face, Lands End, Timberland…Eastern Mountain Sports? No need for haute couture when your Lumbersexual hunk probably has everything he needs in his closet.  For shoes, classic, comfortable yet still stylish is always a safe bet. A pair of Red Wing Classic Mocs should do the trick. Spotted on Lumbersexuals in Stockholm and Copenhagen, these sturdy, studly boots work with jeans, corduroys and wool trousers.

Screen Shot 2015-02-22 at 22.32.32A good backpack is also essential. Ryan Gosling, another Lumbersexual god, is never far from his favourite backpack. Don’t make the mistake of letting it look too new. It should look worn-in, scuffed, scruffy–just like your guy. What should he have in his backpack? Some Lumbersexuals tote around their MacBook Air or a dog-eared copy of their favourite novel. Swedish Lumbersexuals seem to always have computers with them. A few of the American Lumbersexuals I’ve met have a penchant for Moleskine notebooks and nice pens. Not bad. I like a thinking man. A man who’s a bookworm. A man who likes to write down his thoughts.  My ideal Lumbersexual would always have a bottle of Canadian maple syrup in his backpack. That brunch place he recommended may only serve pancake syrup with artificially flavoured maple syrup. You never known when you might need maple syrup. But of course the ideal Lumbersexual would never take you to a place that didn’t serve proper maple syrup.

Lucky Me

As I write this, I realise I am already married to a Lumbersexual. He doesn’t like wearing suits. His hair is cut short and always a bit messy (just like I like it). And nearly everything in his wardrobe comes from an outdoor lifestyle shop. He likes hiking in the Swedish fells and owns more fleece jackets than one needs in a lifetime. All of his shoes are made of Gore-Tex (with the exception of one pair of leather dress shoes I made him buy to wear to a friend’s wedding). The only thing missing is the beard. His beard grows in too patchy, so he settles for razor-stubble and it looks good on him.

I hope this Lumbersexual fad lasts for a while. As much as I like David Beckham or Cristiano Ronaldo, they’re both a tad bit too polished, too waxed.  Give me the rough-and-tumble guy any day. He’s not afraid to get dirty…and he’s sexy as all get-out.

So tell me…who’s your favourite lumbersexual?

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